Hahahaaaa! These thoughts absolutely do all swirl about in the ambient thought patterns, no need to make it sound like it's a mistake, Bro!
Having had about 2/3 the # of years you have in hitting primarily Chinese places around the state and to a great extent here in SacTown, I've also had these thoughts and have learned some from discussions with the ladies.
One who I got close enough to to have brought home and spend numerous overnights with me - all just purely as friends-with-benefits & no $ ever exchanged hands - asked me outright if I thought of her as "only a prostitute" when in fact she reportedly only ever does a
HJ HE finish after a serious effort at a deep tissue massage.
She and others who are in it who provide some touchy feely yet who don't suck or
FS really just are adjusted to their reality that they're in this situation and it makes some pretty damn good money at times and they may or may not have alternative pursuits for generating cash, but they're just basically stuck and they know it.
At least, that's my experience. It's like many of the new entrants on Myredbook - probably Backpage & Craigslist too - who think they'll try it or get into it through a friend and then they think they'll get out, but if they do, it's after overstaying the brief period they'd initially anticipated.
I've seen a few just plain retire/quit. Others, move away but I suspect that they might have just gone on to what they'd hoped for would be greener pastures and likely are still strokin' off dudes elsewhere.
The ladies who do a pretty good massage and also go sensual for our benefit and also seem to get into it and are playful and fun and with whom we develop a personal connection really keep me coming back. The vast majority who pretty much hate what they're stuck doing and who are lousy at the massage and often just jack to get it over with ASAP really do seem to dominate the market and are one of the chief motivations I have for posting and reading reviews and comments - they're to be identified and avoided! DUH!?
Thanks for the post and I do tend to have compassion even for the ones who really are substandard in what they do, yet I have to fight overtipping them out of pity because I certainly don't want their mediocre [or worse] efforts to be rewarded or a good tip to leave them the impression that they met expectations and they're adequate with no need to improve.