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by ibattleme11

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ibattleme11
10/22/2012 01:23 pm

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I went for back therapy. I work out a lot and am attractive. For once this is the truth. I did not want to pay 100 in town for a good massage. I attended several sessions with the same girl and everything was professional. Then, I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. I have lots of women that are my friends. We laugh, go out and have a good time together. You would think I pressed some magic button. I have never gotten so much sexual unplanned attention in my life. This is GFE on adrenalin. She says that she is in love with me. I went from a good massage to an hour of use your imagination. I do not even understand how these places work. Can the girl even go out with me or is she forced to live with other girls at that location. (I will not give up the location because I do not want the girl to get into trouble.) What if she ran off with me is there a problem? Also, I do not want to be a sucker and be played myself. This situation has to have happened to someone else. I am really torn by this.
Klem 1
10/22/2012 01:41 pm

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Doesn't seem to matter where you are... what state, what town....

Congratulations on being the 1 Million'th dude to go through this.

Nobody can tell you how this will end for you - but I know I've been there. At least three times in 2 years.
None have worked out happily. None worked out the way I wanted them to. I was lucky in the fact that none of these girls ended up wanting money from me. But in all cases - what they told me about their lives - whether they had kids, husbands, where they lived, who they lived with, what they did on their own time - were all lies and deceit in the worst - or just plain manipulation in the least. In all cases - honesty never seemed to enter into the relevant discussion of things. And in more than one case - I wasn't the only dude they were involved with - one even had another "me". I mean this chick told this guy everything she ever told me - almost verbatim. ( He and I connected before she knew that WE knew about each other - it was quite the scene when she realized we were talking amongst ourselves).

Anyway - can't tell you what to do - can only tell you that 98% of the stories I have heard about in this area - do not come out with the proverbial "happy ending", so to speak.

My advice? Keep your heart close, and your wallet even closer... This scene is not likely to work out well for you. Best to nip it in the bud.

But... that being said - it will probably happen to me again... :-/
StrokerAce1
10/22/2012 01:56 pm

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You have to let this play out over the course of time if you are seriously not thinking with your dick and you have feelings. But Grabster is right. I would cut loose quickly. No I wouldn't. I would probably havest as much poon out of her as I could before dispatching her.
Brahmabull
10/23/2012 11:23 am

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ibattleme11 wrote:
I went for back therapy. I work out a lot and am attractive. For once this is the truth. I did not want to pay 100 in town for a good massage. I attended several sessions with the same girl and everything was professional. Then, I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend. I have lots of women that are my friends. We laugh, go out and have a good time together. You would think I pressed some magic button. I have never gotten so much sexual unplanned attention in my life. This is GFE on adrenalin. She says that she is in love with me. I went from a good massage to an hour of use your imagination. I do not even understand how these places work. Can the girl even go out with me or is she forced to live with other girls at that location. (I will not give up the location because I do not want the girl to get into trouble.) What if she ran off with me is there a problem? Also, I do not want to be a sucker and be played myself. This situation has to have happened to someone else. I am really torn by this.


If she runs off with you, be prepared to support her financially, including any and all money she wishes to send home to her family. You will need to provide her with as much as she makes monthly at the spa.

They will not always 'ask' you for money, but she will be trying to return to work if you dont.
relaxn
10/23/2012 03:36 pm

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It is a conundrum, isn't it? You find a really good person, but aren't exactly sure how to proceed. There is a provider at my current favorite AMP and the 2nd time she worked on me she was wanting to know if I had a GF, or was married...said she'd be my "girlfriend."
The next time there she mentioned, in passing, about having a sister still "over there." I figured she was testing me to see if I'd be open to being a "sponsor/quick (for show) marraige/get someone over here/get their Green Card/quickie divorce" type thing.
A couple visits later, while she was giving me the TS I said that I wish I could find a girl like her that would be able to pamper me with a bath, massage, etc. but she never said anything until a visit or two later...As she started the massage she said she was a bit tired, and felt like she could use a massage...I should have had her take my place and massage her, but my brain had dropped into my glans, and was therefore compressed and non-functional.
I asked her how long she'd been working at this type of job and she said "Too long" then she said that she would cook, do laundry and dishes, and clean house...if I needed a GF. I wish she'd have included giving me a shower (I have a large shower, no tub, and mutual showering is environmentally correct) and some kind of "release" every night, I'd have probably packed her up at the end of her shift.
...BUT reality set in as the brain in my head started recieving oxygen again and I started adding up what I could imagine to be the true cost of something like this happening. I'd need to win the Lotto, first....AND, wouldn't it always be in the back of your mind, how many men she has jacked off? or given blow-jobs to? or had sex with? or anal sex with? or how many times she would swallow someones' semen (esp if she wouldn't swallow yours)?
It's the old Double Standard...What would happen if you'd go out and run into some of her customers, esp if they are drunk? That could become quite a scene. You'd have to live a bit away from the area where her job site is.
You can probably come up with at least this many more reasons not to get really involved with a provider. The minuses can be huge, but the plusses could be physically satisfying (maybe not fiscally satisfying, tho)...ie. it is purely up to you and your gut feeling.
juan_peso
10/23/2012 05:25 pm

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The old story is "you can take the girl out of the business but you can't take the business out of the girl". If every thing is not what she wants she will try to make it that way. As others have said; be very carefull and very sure of what you are doing.
StrokerAce1
10/24/2012 01:57 pm

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Take out a second mortgage, maybe then you would have enough to support her for six months.
ibattleme11
10/24/2012 09:31 pm

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Thanks for your helpful comments. I was told by another girl that they are not allowed to date and must remain onsite. These girls are in some system that moves them around the county. I would love to understand who controls this system. Someone or some group is making a fortune off of these girls. This would be an amazing book if you could get inside knowledge.
I am also finding it more difficult to get sessions with my girl. If I get a message by one of the other girls I reject their advances and do not tip. This also makes me mad. Do not tell me I have an appointment then give me a different girl. This is a fool
StrokerAce1
10/25/2012 10:01 am

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In some states they do move around, especially on the East Coast. But I have found that west of the Mississippi that they are mostly independent contractors and can do as they please.
Klem 1
10/25/2012 10:46 am

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Some do live in the store they work at....some live in they're own apts.... I know of one mamasan here in Sac who keeps 2 apts - and in these apts live anywhere from 4-8 women at any given time. I know of a FS place where the girls are "sponsored" to get into the country - then they work to pay off their "debt", while sending money home at the same time.

Here in California - the hub is LA... and more specifically Monterey Park. It seems any asian - chinese ones anyway - first came to the US via Monterey Park - and they return there all the time to take care of Visa, green card, and even most medical issues.

The bottom line is while I'm sure there are networks across the country - every place can be different - and usually is. There are no hard, fast rules - and no real network that could be considered all encompassing.... it changes from place to place - town to town.
StrokerAce1
10/26/2012 10:09 am

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I think once their mouth is engaged on your member or their legs are spread, where they came from is not a thought that passes through my mind.
Brahmabull
11/05/2012 11:38 am

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[quote="ibattleme11"] Thanks for your helpful comments. I was told by another girl that they are not allowed to date and must remain onsite. These girls are in some system that moves them around the county. I would love to understand who controls this system. Someone or some group is making a fortune off of these girls. This would be an amazing book if you could get inside knowledge.
I am also finding it more difficult to get sessions with my girl. If I get a message by one of the other girls I reject their advances and do not tip. This also makes me mad. Do not tell me I have an appointment then give me a different girl. This is a fool
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